Jealousy… Such an interesting word on so many levels. Now, I am not a jealous person because nobody has anything that I want, feel that I deserve to have, or need. If I feel a certain vibe from someone, I would check myself to really see what dynamics are really going on and why I feel that way, then act accordingly.If someone is on a different positive level than I, would start to evaluate where I am and how I can improve my life to get to that level of love. For I’m about growth, healing and health (ie: healthy relationships, life, etc).
What I do not tolerate is blatant disrespect. Funny how people would assume that one is jealous when they are being disrespected.
Even funnier with flirting, there is a very thin line between the two.
Recently, a friend of ours (my beau and myself) had his new girlfriend came over to hang out with us. Cool, no problems, except for the vibe I kept getting off of her. I didn’t know what it was then, but now I see it as her not being genuine. Something about her rubbed me the wrong way and I couldn’t call it.
After a while, we were talking, drinking, having a good time. She proceeds to flirt with my beau in front of me AND her boyfriend. So, I call my beau over and tell him to watch it. I’m not going to “make a scene” (yet)…but I will fire warning shots and my beau knows that. She realized it too and toned her ass down. But what upset me the most was that she completely disrespected her and her boyfriend’s relationship and told me everything that I needed to know. She doesn’t truly love nor care about our friend at all, she might just like him but that is it. With me, she tried to do the “bonding” -“we are girls!” BS but I am too old for that and because she showed her ass, I do not need her as a friend for anything. She also thinks she has more weight than she really does have, which is a HUGE potential problem, and our friend will have to check her on that really quick. But me being me, I will talk to him privately about her so that he is fully aware if he isn’t already.
In other words, stay in your lane before you get hurt!